cancer

my best friends mom is dying and her dad died a year ago. her mom has refused to go the the hospital to see if the cancer has spread. i called my dad because his first wife had breast cancer and i thought he could offer some advice. he said me and my best friend were selfish in not letting her mom just die. to force her to go the hospital would be about our own egos. he then wrote me an email to tell me to "grow up" but daddy, all my friends are dying, I feel like ive grown up so much.